I Love Warm Fuzzies

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I do, I love Warm Fuzzies.  No, not fuzzy p.j's that keep you warm at night.  The, someone just said something really nice to me and I am all warm and fuzzy inside, kind.  I L.o.v.e them.  I don't know anyone that hates them, and if they do..they have problems. 

I remember an exercise we did in High School.  We were each given a peice of paper and tape, and had to get someone to stick it to our backs.  We were then given a marker, and were told:

"On everyone's back, write something that you feel is a good quality about them.  Don't make it generalized, make it about them.  Whether it is one of their physical attributes, their personality, or a quality you really like about them, put it down"

We all looked around at eacother, not knowing what to write and not really wanting to do it..  It's funny, how the moment you have something nice to say about someone..you chicken out or you feel embarrassed to say something.  This is why the teacher put the peices of paper on our backs.  We wouldn't know who wrote what, and wouldn't have to say it to someone's face.  But why? 

Why is it so hard for us to open up and explain to someone why we really enjoy their company, why we admire a quality, and what we love about them?  We don't surround ourselves by bad company. We have our friends because they have qualities, attributes, and personalities that we enjoy, they make us happy.  So, why don't we ever say anything.

I love all of my friends for different reasons, but do any of them really know why I love hanging out with them so much? 

I remember all us sitting in silence at the end of our exercise, reading about the warm fuzzies that people said about us.  None of us said a thing, as we all read about the things people liked about us.  It was a confidence booster.   

"  I love your smile "
"  I love how you are never mean to anyone "
"  You are so funny "
"  You are beautiful "
"  So many people like you, I want to be your friend too "
"  I love when you are outgoing, stop being so shy "


The above are some of the things that people wrote about me.

I've never thought any of these things about myself. I never thought I was "beautiful" but people actually wrote it, and not just one.  Our judgements of ourselves, put us back.  When people actually say these things to us, we may actually start thinking it.  This exercise allowed us to see that everyone, no matter what group they were in, had nice things to say about us....even if we had never spoke to them before.

But, after this exercise I remember my little moody teenage self going back to having the low confidence and thinking I wasn't pretty at all... I hate having confidence issues, I go back and forth..it's annoying!!!  But almost everyone has confidence issues, whether they admit it or not.

If people actually complimented each other more, about the things that they loved, would we have these feelings still?